No matter what anyone thinks, I wasn't waiting around,hoping she would reach out one day. Her aunt died of breast cancer as did her grand mother, so when she mentioned that, yes, I asked her if she wanted to me to join her to her appointments. That seems to have gotten blown into me running back to comfort her the moment she reached out. I get other LBS have done that in the past, but that is not me.
I do remember that and I believe I supported your decision to be available to her during that time. Personally I feel that when it comes to a health issue, especially a serious one, DB'ing should be temporarily set aside if it's what the WAS wants. My XW went through cancer after S and she did NOT want my support, so I respected her wishes. But in your case it did seem she wanted your assistance, so no harm there at all.
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Since we started hanging out, I will admit, I have enjoyed it. And that is what she would bring to the table.
Good enough! If you enjoy her company and have no expectations beyond friendship then carry on. I know a lot of people here feel they can't ever be friends with their ex and that is perfectly valid if that's how they feel. But after some time went by after D, my XW and I became closer as friends and remain so to this day. Some people can't do that but it works for us.
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I was considering mentioning or perhaps discussing where I stand with her but even that is not something I "urge" to do or something I consider of great importance. Was just a thought and I'm happy to put that aside.
If you're just curious and have no expectations then I don't see a problem with asking her something like "Just curious why you're suddenly interested in hanging out so much?" Kind of a ping without it being a relationship discussion per se. Normally I wouldn't suggest that but your situation is a bit unique. You say you've moved on and I really do believe you, so you're better equipped to have a conversation like that than most here.
