Up to you my friend. I discussed with others here who suggested sending that letter could wait. Me not wanting to finalize the D does not mean I have an urge to get back together with her. Especially not after all that's happened. I am in no rush for a quick fix that would lead me to BD2.
I remember what that urge felt like last year. That's why I'm so sure. That urge is no longer there. But that doesn't mean I want the doors closed for good. Not right now at least, but it could be how I feel in not that long.
So how does finalizing the D close the door for good? I see a lot of LBSs struggling with that these days. AnotherStander and other great DBers have said repeatedly that D is a step in the process. If dropping that envelope in the mail today stops R from happening down the line, then it was not a very strong R to begin with.
I am seeing a lot of contradictions in you Ben. I think you saw this reaching out about the lump as a chance to get back together. Then remaining in contact past that as another opportunity to get back together. I mean, deep down isn't that what you are struggling with? You claim you don't want to get back together, but isn't that why you asked about discussing "us"?
If you don't want to get back together. And if you don't want to be in the friend zone. And if you don't want to finalize D. Then I am confused about what you want.
Last edited by Steve85; 06/10/2003:33 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
