Almost a month since I last posted so I should probably post an update so that the few who remember me can follow the progress smile

The past few weeks have been similar in many ways. I've been seeing W several times per week, each time initiated by her. She is always the first to message me as well. It's difficult for me to guess what it is she wants. It could either be that she wants to R but doesn't know where I stand and is afraid I would reject her or she is still unsure. A few things I have noticed that are complete 180s from how she were last year -

Weather has been nice lately and she mentioned how it's supposed to be warm all week next week. She said that's nice but in a way she doesn't like it since she feels she has to do something like go out or meet friends when all she wants to do is be home. This is coming from a person who turned in to a teenager when this started and had to be out every day. She couldn't stand being at home back then.

Since W and I started hanging out, I have at no point tried to talk about us a a couple or showed any romantic interest. When she's been here, she's also seen my other phone which I've used for that dating app I mentioned a few posts ago, laying around. Although I haven't logged in in a while, it's still here. I'm sure she must be wondering if I'm going on dates.

I'm wondering if I should bring "us" up. What we are doing now can't go on forever and I'm sure she knows that. But something like asking her where she sees this going. And depending on what she answers, either suggest to go on a date or explain that I'm not interested in friendship and ending this.

Thoughts?


Me: 38
Stbxw: 35
No kids
Mini bd: February 6, 2019
ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019
Told her to move out: September 8, 2019
W moved out: September 28, 2019
Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019