Completely lost, where am I?

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I could please bring her some clothes that she forgot so she could get dry to eat dinner and asked if I wanted to eat with them. I took her the clothes and went ahead and hung around long enough to scarf a bit of food, then off I went.

Helllllll naw! You white knighted the hell out of her. You aren't her man anymore in her eyes. You had plans. I'd stop answering the phone so much too, especially when you're busy.

Now, our whole family has an app on our phones where we can see where everyone in our circle is, and I guess she had looked at it.

Get rid of it now. Don't have it on again. Don't let the WW know where you are. It's none of her business IMO as she is holding up to your standards of marriage. You can't be mysterious while she is tracking you 24/7.

W worked from 7am - 7pm. I spent the day working in the garage and digging out an old military footlocker that I want to make something out of. W got home around 7:30, we (me, W, step-D + BF) ate dinner. The W had 2 "beers" with and just after dinner then went to bed.

I would recommend leaving for some GAL around 7 PM then and leave her to her lonesome. Screw being around when she is there. I used to go lay under a tree and read for hours during the height of sitch. It's 100 times better than being in the house when she is there.

I just said "that's nice" and went back to talking with step-D. Later as the W was going to bed, she told me that the OW2 had gotten a new job and was doing good. Again, I simply replied "that's nice" and that was the end of our convo for the day. She went to bed.[quote] Good job Tex.

[quote]Just before dinner was ready the W told me she was super angry at the OM and wanted to know if we could go out after dinner to take her mind off of things.

Man, that sounds rough. You sound like the gay friend. She's telling you about some other dude she has romantic interest in and she wants to use you as a relief valve for that? What in the name of Jesus is going on here? You had made a whole meal and you put that on hold for this? Man oh man...

One slight correction, I didn't say an open marriage WOULD be OK as a last resort, I said it could only be considered as a last resort.

If you said this to her, she used it to justify her behavior and now you are living in the open marriage. Do you really mean this? If so, just get used to your W having OM around and move forward.

As far as the make out situation it sounds like you are pretty worked up right now. It doesn't have to be one or the other of those things. Just calm down for now and you will gain clarity.

But seriously dude, you have to figure out if you're good with the open marriage thing. If you aren't, then we need to figure out how you are going to stop giving her only the parts that she wants while you don't get your needs met. She says she only made out with OM but we don't know do we?