Separated 11 wks, WAH wants to reconcile (part 4)

[Pommy99]

P,

Just keep in light and enjoy one another like you were first dating. Hangout, have fun and hookup. At some point he will start to back away and the key is going to be not to panic and pursue. Remember that you are the prize and he needs to EARN another chance with you.

Also don’t be shocked if you get the feeling you want to walk away. If you do make sure you sit with it for awhile.

I’m happy that it looks like you’re getting what you wanted.

LH - is that the norm - that he will start to back away? Thanks for the heads-up. Hopefully I know enough by now not to go pursuing him if he does start to retreat.

I am going through my own emotions, some of which are surprising me. I feel remarkably relaxed about taking things slowly, whereas before it would have been a case of getting him back home quickly before he changes his mind! Now I'm happy for us to have some distance and space, especially as we are still in lockdown and both of us expect to be WFH for the next 4 months minimum. Reading all the GAL activities on other threads I'm really going to make use of the time I have to do more for myself. I really feel like I have completely taken the pressure and expectation off H and he is responding in a positive way. I'm not pushing conversations about him moving home, I'm not starting R discussions, I'm not asking to see him every day. Baby steps is the right pace right now.