[SteveLW]

Thanks for the update. I do want to correct one thing you said:

So, friends, I’m not divorce busting anymore. I don’t WANT the marriage back, with the amount of work he would have to do on himself to get right and then to heal the pain he has caused this year (boy 2020 has been a rough year) I just don’t think he has it in him to climb out of that hole. I don’t look at him with love anymore, I just think he is disgusting and a low life. I want to cut the cord and be done with him.

Believe it or not 11dmnds, in our situation moving on and being done with him IS DBing!! I wish more LBSs that have a WAS that is moved out and actively engaging in a PA could have the strength of character to shake the dust of their feet and move on. Do not be surprised if someday he comes a knocking because things with the idiot OW don't work out. It happens all the time.

More often then not the LBS at that point is not even open to the idea of Ring.

But I will say this, I hope I’m not discouraging to anyone here that is still fighting for their marriage, Divorce Busting has been such a help. It helped me reclaim my self worth and self power and get out of the vortex of his BS to see the reality of the situation. Rose colored glasses off, if you will. I love the message behind DB because it’s really about saving yourself. And for me, he doesn’t deserve me. Maybe one day he will realize it, maybe he won’t, but what is important is that I realize it.

THIS IS GOLD!!!! The ultimate point of DBing is to make you are better, stronger, happier, healthier person. If the WAS sees that in time to save the marriage, bonus. But DBing is successful because of what it does to and for the LBS......not because it always saves the MR!

And I’m okay. I’m okay moving forward with D and moving out and even okay about the girlfriend, it makes me laugh because it’s such a hot mess. Sounds like he has it ALLLL figured out. Good thing he quit therapy, I’m sure he didn’t need it anyhow! Lol!

The sad thing for the WASs is that they think they can find happiness in someone new. When in reality if they can't be happy by themselves they'll never be happy no matter how many people they try to find to fill that hole inside.

Funny how he pulled the plug on things but in the long run I’m getting the better deal from it because I’m free of his nonsense!

Kudos to you for the bright outlook and seeing the light! The truth is that you deserve so much more than a lying, cheating WAS! Now go out and have an awesome life!!