Well, H asked for a response to his letter and I told him that I respected his need for self-discovery for those 6 months, but that having three parties in our M was a deal breaker for me. Silence.
Perfect.
my recommendation to you now-- follow Alison's advice, fill up your days over the next couple of weeks as much as you can. be extra kind to yourself. Also, be prepared for him to find a chink or two in your armor and instead of coming back with a straight OK I'll end it or sorry I can't do that, he'll have found some squirmy way to respond like asking for a smaller amount of time or say some things that will make you feel like he might be leaning in. What will you do then? Just be clear on what your boundaries are and what you will or will not accept.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
