You are too set to make some grand gesture or some proclamation, just to make an impact with her (on her). Say it with actions, not words. Time for talk is long gone...
Exactly! Don't tell her you're not going to discuss the R with her, just don't discuss it. Whenever she brings it up then just validate. "It sounds like you're really struggling", stuff like that. If she ASKS you why you're not directly discussing the R, THEN tell her that as far as you are concerned, as long as she is with someone else there is no R.
She loves talking with her friend because her friend is telling her what she wants to hear. WAS's love that cr*p.
