But you don't have to have an excuse of having somewhere else to go or to to be, Dilly. You can just say you don't feel like it, or you had plans to take a bath and read a book, or you just prefer not to. I think it's worth sitting a while with the discomfort of that fear of his reaction if you said no to doing something you didn't want to do. You already have a lawyer, you're confident that lawyer can handle the money side of things and you don't think it is likely that your H would hide money given his job. So what else are you scared of? I think getting to the bottom of this would help you make freer decisions. After all - you're dating, seeing a lawyer, planning a divorce, and open to a sexual relationship with someone else. You're single. So is your H. You can be FREE from having to go on walks with an unpleasant man just as soon as you like.
