You are so right LH!
All this was not great for detachment but I can really feel I am stronger and will back on track very soon.

What is the boards take on telling her plain and simple that I wont be discussing our R as long as shes with him?

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021