She also said something like "I'm glad we can talk. It woerd not to talk when you've known a person for 12 years".

At some point if things don't change i might need to tell her I don't want to be her friend. What's your take on that?

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021