Thank you, everyone, for your responses. It has been invaluable to my process.
For all of those that are slightly ahead of me in your situations, I hear repeatedly that everyone wished they had ‘dropped the rope’ sooner. Or put more boundaries in place sooner. I would love to hear what that would have looked like in your situations as I navigate my own.
H’s letter makes me feel slightly sick. He is so wrapped up in his own process, his own feelings and his own struggles. It seems ludicrous that he needs to be alone to process his innermost thoughts, and yet he will make no move to end his EA. His letter makes me truly understand that he has no thoughts or cares for me or my feelings. And if he is not going to care, then I guess I am the only one that can care for myself. So in a way, I guess I am taking ownership for my own needs over his. Finally.
But now that I am taking true ownership of my feelings and needs, absent of him, I am struggling with what to do next. I have time to decide, it’s on my terms. And this is where I am seeking guidance: what would you have done differently in your situation?
