Hi Texan, There may be a motive at work here. Often, cheating spouses try to bring the non-cheating spouse down to their level ("we're both liars"), similar to the way she wanted you to buy into a "hall pass". Steve85 has dealt with EAs successfully, and is a great person to have listening and commenting on your situation.
I am not sure I would call it a motive as i am not sure it's a conscious decision, but I am 100% sure you are correct that it is her lies and infidelity that is causing her to be paranoid about me also lying and/or cheating. So I think she is more afraid I am going to go do something out of a sense of revenge or vindictiveness and is preemptively looking for it. I could be wrong though, it's just how it seems to me.
Not much happened yesterday but here is an account.
W worked from 7am - 7pm. I spent the day working in the garage and digging out an old military footlocker that I want to make something out of. W got home around 7:30, we (me, W, step-D + BF) ate dinner. The W had 2 "beers" with and just after dinner then went to bed.
The only thing to note was that after the W and I had finished eating but were still at the table waiting on step-D (a notoriously slow eater) to finish eating, the W got a text and got a little excited and showed me who it was. It was the female ex-cowrker that was W's second interest (We will call her OW2) but that apparently didn't return the interest. I just said "that's nice" and went back to talking with step-D. Later as the W was going to bed, she told me that the OW2 had gotten a new job and was doing good. Again, I simply replied "that's nice" and that was the end of our convo for the day. She went to bed.
Part of me feel like W reached out to OM2 because her R with OM blew up, but I feel like she pointed it out to me b/c she thinks I am having an A somehow and wants me to know she can too even without OM. I am not sure. She is "def cray cray".
Oh no one ever responded about what I should about that tracking app while trying to GAL. I am not sure what to do with that.
