I can understand being tired, and also disappointed. Gosh relationships are hard work aren't they? Your H does not sound like a barrel of joy I suppose it's a matter of working out whether what he does give you is enough, knowing that no marriage is perfect and compromises always need to be made. The lack of emotional intimacy is bad though, you can overlook all manner of other stuff if you can both be honest with each other and receive honesty back. He doesn't seem prepared to put in the effort for that though, would anything motivate him to do that do you think?
I suppose it's a matter of working out whether what he does give you is enough, knowing that no marriage is perfect and compromises always need to be made. The lack of emotional intimacy is bad though, you can overlook all manner of other stuff if you can both be honest with each other and receive honesty back. He doesn't seem prepared to put in the effort for that though, would anything motivate him to do that do you think?