Remember-- if he isn't ready to return and work on the M right now, there is nothing you can do to make him be ready. This is his work he needs to go through. It is your turn now to figure out how to support your own needs, refocus on you. You deserve so much more than this.
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This is so true - it isn't a negotiation, as parts of piecing might be. You can think of what your bottom lines might be for a future R, or boundaries you might put in place to deal with the current situation, but he's telling you he isn't interested in or able to meet any of your needs right now. I do think it's super important for you to think about your own needs, but don't bother advocating or asking for him to meet or consider them - that's your job now.
