I love reading this. May, I don't think you have any obligation to tell your H what you do with your personal money and your body. I get what you're saying about taking a risk with exposure to Covid (much less than picking up groceries or putting fuel in the car though, probably...) and wanting to be honest, but you know, every marriage needs mystery and I don't tell H what happens at the beautician either. We have a similar amount of spending money each month and I have no idea what he does with his - I spend half and save half and planned to take the savings and go on a holiday somewhere later this summer - I hadn't even discussed the thought with him and I know we have our problems, but I also know that 100% he wouldn't mind this.
Having said all that, I think my H would have a problem with botox too. I don't care to have it right now, but if that changed, I would 100% go get it and not tell him so long as the money wasn't impacting on family finances. I sometimes joke about having a breast augmentation (I'm naturally slight and two lots of breast feedings have not been kind to me) and he really strongly objects to that too. I actually don't want either of these things enough to bother with the conflict, but I think I'd stick to my guns if I felt strongly about it. I have many tattoos - some of them quite large - and I know he would prefer me not to have them. *shrugs*
I think I've let my self-care go a bit recently. I dress smartly for work - but now I am working at home I am mainly in my dog-walking clothes and hair scraped back. The hair salons and beauty places aren't open here yet, and I don't have any regular treatments along the lines you are discussing but I have been feeling so BLEAUGH lately, stuck in the house so much in my scruffy clothes. I suspect I've put on a little weight (just a little) and definitely feel unfit and out of condition. I need to step up a bit in this area and get myself feeling good again.
