I love that you girls are doing something for yourselves!! Anything that brings a tiny bit of self-confidence back in the face of rejection is totally A-OK. I mean, isn’t it better to get a little bit of personal work done than have an ACTUAL affair to boost your self-esteem? Pick your poison? I would choose the same path as you, May & Wooba.
And May, I get the whole ‘exposure’ argument, but in light of the exposure your H put you through by sleeping with someone else, a session in a hygenic doctor’s office (safer than a grocery store right now!) pales in comparison. If you get s*** from H for taking care of yourself and doing what feels good to you (in a non-cheating way), then he is not worth your time. Sorry, that’s harsh. But I don’t think you should be ashamed or guilty when you bring this up to him. (Coming from a woman whose H NEVER liked me even wearing makeup, despite his career working with models). You do YOU, girl and don’t be sorry for it!
But I get the side of you that needs to be honest with him. In light of your need for him to be honest with you. You need a level playing field, right? I guess my only caution is to not approach this as the same level of ‘honesty’. Tell him, if that makes you feel OK, but don’t approach it in your heart as the same level of dishonesty. Stand tall, be beautiful, and say ‘while you were busy ELSEWHERE, I chose to do this for myself and it feels right and makes ME feel good about myself and I am going to continue it’ and close the door on the discussion.
