I feel like I am dropping the rope again and have been GAL for some time. I am rationalizing that if the D does come not much will change from what the stich is right now except the financials on me will be greater.
Like I said I have bought another copy of DR and have been blowing through it and will re-read it again, i'm not being reactionary towards anything from her and am being the best for the boys.
I'm not looking for a magic bullet but just reassurance through someone elses story that a flip flopper can eventually flop back to wanting to work on the marriage.
It is what it is and I will be fine wo her.
thx NJ
Good to hear. Sometimes we see questions from LBSs and since we are aware of the feelings they are feeling because we've been through it, we can cut through the question to the heart of the issue. I perceived you looking for that magic bullet for flip-flopping her back. And the answer is there was nothing I could do to get her to flip-flop back to the MR, except wait. Nothing I did caused her to flop back to wanting to keep the MR. I think the best answer to the question of "When will the WAS want to come back?" is "When they WANT to come back."
You aren't going to be fine without her. You are going to be great! You are going to be AWESOME! You are going to take life by the horns, regardless of her decision, and live an amazing life! Financials come and go, you are going to flourish once this deadweight in your life is finally cut loose.
Please go read my quote of LH in R2C's quote thread. It is pure gold.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
