I have been reading BluWave (she has a lot of threads - I am still in the 2017 dates) Her H did come back, only after she let the rope go. She detached. But did so, so thoroughly that she is struggling to accept him back, and on the brink of her own A.
This confirms the point about your brain trying to stabilize and bring stability back to your life. It's never about the other person. The fact of the matter is truly happy couples do not find themselves in these situations. If you are honest with yourself you were probably not that happy either.
