It's not easy when you are fighting for your marriage and sometimes, we do have those "happy moments" and along comes someone in IRL or here and then bam! The bubble of happiness pops.
Take some time to digest the comments that have been posted. The problem w/posting in print, people can take what is posted many ways. Each and every poster that comes here not only to your thread, but the many that are on this forum as well as the other forums are either walking the same path as you or are further along. Everyone has an opinion and each and every poster means well and you need only to take whatever advice that you think applies to your situation. Leave the rest in the dust.
I always advise posters to do what works for them and their situation and leave the rest at the door. If you try something and it isn't working, then try something else. You will know how things are going w/the trial and error routine because actions will speak louder than words.
I would offer up a word of caution and I do advise everyone of this...if you are having sexual relations w/your h and he's been out on the prowl, please, please get yourself checked out, even if he says he isn't having relations out there. Condoms work, but there is always the possibility of a slip up or a snafu w/that little rubber raincoat.
Take the time to work on yourself, if you have become aware of things that you've been doing that you aren't happy with, then now is the time to work on them.
We are here for you and the door is always open.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
