Welcome to the board. Sorry you find yourself here, I am sure you are feeling lost and unsure. Probably not eating or sleeping well. But the folks here can help you.
I do want to get a clarification before i weigh in. Am I seeing it right that you had a daughter at 16, and a son at 17? And your W was 18 and 19 respectively?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018