NewJimmy, I tried to tell you this in my earlier post. The problem isn't that you weren't eager enough, it was that you were TOO eager. She wanted to see if she could still have you. And when she went to dinner, went bike riding, had another dinner, and then movie night. And then when she pulls back you immediately start reaching out. "What's wrong?"
Some people just like the thrill of the chase. Once they catch their prey they really don't know what to do or how to proceed. She was reacting on emotion. But once you were all eager for every breadcrumb she dropped for you, she went back to her previous position.
But to answer your question: "Has anyone else had a come back going from hearing " I'm trying to work through this all and know it will be an uphiill battle but I do see myself coming home sometime soon" to "we are done and I should have never thought you would change"."
Yes. My wife flipped more than a hamburger on a short-order cook's grill. One minute saying she wanted to stay, and the next staying she still was going to go. The WAS mind is not something that is easily understood.
So what got you to the point where she said the first? Because it certainly wasn't: "I texted her back "What happened, lets discuss etc and one instance where we disagree on my reaction to something and thats it?""
When you got the text "I'm done, I have no interest in working on stuff, don't text me" the right move would have been to give her what she asked for. "don't text me" and your response is to text her? And in a very weak, beta way. An Alpha would have just deleted the text block and moved on.
Go back to being dark. Let her work through her own garbage. I see still being resistant: "hopefully never final or done". Wrong attitude. Your attitude should be, fine you don't want me....then I am moving on.
Find the Alpha!!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
