Yes in the paper work when it is final, hopefully never final or done, dead yes but not a finalized divorce it will be 50 50.
It just [censored] that I now see that she was so close and I did not recognize that she was coming in closer until it was right in my face and she told me she was trying. For weeks she was hanging out in the driveway longer or actually coming in the house when it was raining instead of just saying goodbye to them in the car.
Where if I thought we were at zero on a scale to 5 (with 5 being great and good) Just plodding along towards finishing paperwork but we were close to a 2 now we are at a -2 and there is no chance she will think it'll work out or have feeling for trying again.
Has anyone else had a come back going from hearing " I'm trying to work through this all and know it will be an uphiill battle but I do see myself coming home sometime soon" to "we are done and I should have never thought you would change".
Roller coaster of emotions and I know I have to work on being ok with her not coming back and be great for myself and the boys.
Together 10 Married 8 Bomb drop 2/19 Separated since 6/18 Papers started 9/19 Two kids 5 and 7, boys
im in the house, she is local and at her parents, boys split time
