WF, first of all I want to bow to you for using the concept of kintsugi in your post. At my lowest moments, I imagine all my broken parts being healed in gold and somehow being a more beautiful person in spite of my brokenness. Well placed analogy, bravo.
May and WF, I see so much progress in both of your stories. You both rave about your current partners:
Originally Posted by wayfarer
But he's exactly the H I wanted like a year ago. Helpful around the house. Helpful with the family workload period. We have sex 3 days a week when I had to beg for it before. He's thoughtful. He's considerate.
Originally Posted by may22
It is ironic that for years and years, what I have right now would have been absolutely ideal. Great H, father, partner, funny, caring, supportive, doing waaaaay more of the cooking and shopping and household work than he ever had before, and mostly not bothering me for sex... I would have been in heaven.
What specifically is missing? Can you write it out and distill it into manageable benchmarks? This is a rhetorical question because I know that you both feel like a lot is missing and you both have defined some of those holes in your posts. What I am asking for more specifically is to write down what you need and want. In that process you may find that there are some easy fixes, some unattainable ones, and probably a whole ton of them that just need a lot of time to live their way to fruition. Patience is hard for you both, and I am cut of the same cloth so I completely relate.
I am going to go back to the conversation I had with my friend about present tense-future thinking. Writing down your goals in the present tense as if they have already happened to you. Start with I am, I feel, etc. It's a little woo woo, but the power of manifestation starts with intention and is actualized in tiny subconscious decisions we unknowingly make that lead us to our goals.
