I see what you mean about detachment. I am going to look at that more. I was using the term wrong there, although I do need to work on that as well. I was referring more to disinterest I guess, if that is the right term. Basically that if I show her I want her to come back then she won't. Since I do want her to come back, that is the pretending part. Unless I am missing that point as well.
There is an element of pretending at first. We call it "fake it until you make it". But the idea of detachment isn't necessarily and outward thing. It is inward.
I like to say that detachment is getting to a place where your W could come to you and admit to an orgy with 12 guys, and you would have no visceral, emotional reaction to it. In other words, not being emotionally affected by her words and deeds.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
