When it comes to not being NG with W I simply need to take it slow and really think through things, ask on the board etc. I am realizing how deep my NGS is and I think it will take a long time to really overcome it. Will need to re-read that book every year.
I believe atm I am more "eager" to move on than she is, but considering the big picture I definitely have now rush and D wont be finalized till October. However she still hasn't answered me about the summer vacation, almost been a month. Daily we are on a 2,2,3 schedule, which is fine. But during the vacation switching kids e times per week just wont work. Next step will be to say "Ok it seems you can't chose or don't have a preference so I will assume my proposed schedule is what we will do."
Also, talking about months. Today some of her "trash clothes" intended to be given to charity have been lying in the car for 2 months (like 10 smaller bags of clothes). I made a point of not doing it for her or even mentioning this "don't help the WW", but this is getting ridiculous.
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021