WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

Old thread

Short recap:
Me: 34
STBXW: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019 (I start wondering about OM)
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019

Christmas and January was crap. I made misstakes.
Feb
-Finally had enough and changed my mindset
-Understanding DB for real and getting more control. GAL etc
-I told the kids about situation late February.
-Wife admitted seeing OM. A colleague from work.
March
-Working on DB and detachment
-Corona starts
-I filed for D.

Now.
-I am living in the house 100%. She is living 50% with OM.
-I am getting ready to move on and told her I am prepared to buy her out of the house.
-She is less Wayward and does not want to move immediately anymore.

Last two posts:

Basically I have "helped" W to soften the blow, while being her errand boy... D@mn it!

So, how can you break yourself from repeating these nice-guy patterns?

Do not beat yourself over it. Dust youself off and get back on the horse.