Alison, thank you for the gentle response to my suggestions. I admire how strong, brave and beautiful you are in not accepting abuse any longer. I apologize if my post was inappropriately informed.
You are in such a challenging position. Is there any way that you might be able to approach this current situation together with a MC? Therapy is available via video or calls right now where we are at, and most have more availability than usual so you might be able to find someone quickly. I have found that mentioning that you and H are in a 'crisis' tends to get a quicker response from a therapist. Maybe having a third party 'mediate' the conversation would help your H get over his crisis without causing more harm? This is all predicated on H's willingness to join in a conversation with a MC, so it may not be an option for you right now.
I also like May's suggestion of a note. Or an email or text. If you feel you can do so without breaking your own boundaries surrounding the abusive behavior.
And for a 2x4: do you really want to be married to H? Is this really working for you? If so, where can you be flexible to accommodate his crisis? And if not, what is the next step for you?
