Thanks Steve for both the words of warning and encouragement. She was just here at the house for 20 or 30 minutes getting her clothes she left behind. I just let her in, said hi, your things are in the basement, and went back to work. I was on a conference call.
She lost quite a bit of weight over the last few months too. And I haven't seen her in a few weeks, she has lost more for sure. I didn't say anything though.
By your comments I am guessing your wife stayed and you are working things out now?
She hasn't said anything and I haven't seen any evidence yet of an affair, but I know that doesn't mean anything. She has accused me of cheating almost constantly for 10 years now. Even though there was no evidence and most of that time we had an active sex life. And just to be clear, I never had an affair or cheated. As for her own place, she said she has no interest in ever working on the marriage and that she wants to move on with her life without me. As fast as possible. That could be true or not, either way I am certain that she didn't tell me everything. Why would she.
Detaching is weird too. Because she has been my best friend and lover and wife for so long. I love her still. I am sure everyone has to go through the same, but I still have all those feelings for her and I am just hiding them away pretending that I don't care. I am doing well at getting on with my life for the most part, but I do miss her and think about her. Some days are better than others. And the more time has gone the more better days there are. But even on the best days I am still thinking about her. I guess it feels like I am giving up on the hope that we can reconcile and I still want that hope.
