You're right, Steve. You really are. I was happy before BD but honestly, I'm a lot of ways I've been even happier since my W cane home. She looks at me like she used to. She is genuine and loving. I do think I'm overreacting a little but it does hurt but I realize it should.
My W is sending me texts today reassuring me over and over that she is here because she loves me and wants to do the work. I go believe she was trying to protect me from more pain so she didn't want to tell me.
After reading Gordie's quote, I'm riding the roller coaster right now. When I agreed to work in this I should judge our future based on her work now, not her past mistakes. I don't want full disclosure but I do want truth. It's the only way I'll build trust.
And LH, I hear you but I don't agree with you. Of course she doesn't want to talk about the A all the time-she's a human being who is embarrassed and ashamed. The key is, she does talk to me about it. She allows me my questions and processing so I can heal. But that can't always be just in my time, when I want it. I have learned to ask, " can we talk in an hour?" And she knows exactly what we will talk about. If I just jump right into questioning her without notice if any kind, she struggles more. So I can respect that and ask questions so I can heal.
And being a serial cheater and a WW are not too different. However, a WW can become someone they are not while a serial cheater will always remain selfish and rotten to the core. My W is not rotten...that much I know.
