kt, just went back and reread your original thread. Obviously you were dealing with a wayward wife. During her wayward period she probably did a lot of things, many you still do not know about.
So I will go back to my stance above: you need to decide what she is doing, now! Is she still wayward? Did she only come back because of the pandemic? I she all in to reconciling?
I see some positive signs that she is at least moving in that direction. She wants to do MC. Many LBSs try to drag their WAS/WS to MC kicking and screaming! She agreed to full transparency, and shared her PW. Due to that you found out about another old affair. That happens sometimes with transparency.
Get the book. Read it. See if what you know are things you can get past through the hard work that Ring and piecing is. (As someone that has been through it, it isn't easy!!)
Again, I'd hate to see you blow up your current recent progress over something that is not current. Much of the tough love you should take with a WS are because they are actively engaged in an EA/PA, and unwilling to stop it. Your sitch seems to be that she is over all of that, at least for now, and wants to work on the MR. Trust.....but verify!
Last edited by Steve85; 06/02/2002:43 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
