Affair Fog-LRT 4

[MrBrside]

Hi KTO,

I'm back. But unfortunately because of more hurt

I'd like to say i'm suprised to see you back here - But i really am not.. In the past couple of months there are 2 posts that i follow / contribute to where the H has allowed the wife back - Without her doing any work.. You and Curtis.. And true to form the walls come crashing down for both of you.

Things have been fairly positive with my wife and I. Until I looked through her phone to find out there was an affair before the affair.

Oh how familar does that sound. I accepted my WW back in August 2018 after her first EA with a co worker. I think i even comment on my very first post here how amazing the 8 weeks were after i let her slither back in...

In my defense, i'd never heard of DBing, knew about this site and just wanted my life back. You have had the creme de la creme of vets trying to assist. This is page 4 - click on page 3 and see what Sandi wrote to you. You ignored her excellent advice, but as expected, restart your thread when the inevitable happened.

What is your advice? My D3 is so happy to have her family back and it breaks my heart to rip that from her.

You have had some great advice off people who have seen hundreds of sitchs like yours... litterally hundreds - With virtually none turning it round in a few weeks. You have ignored all their advice because your focus is getting WW back and playing happy familys. I get that, and i suspect most people here get that - You want a happy family for your daughter and thats what a loving parent should want - However your are dealing with a WW here and it wont be all happy families unfortunetly. However until you actually focus on dropping the rope, instead of playing happy families, you will be a doormat and WW will still be WW.

Part of me says this was part of my old wife and she has made positive changes.

What changes did she actually make ? I think you need to look at some of Sandi's posts on this - i suspect she told you what you wanted the hear, but deep down she is still bitter / resentful and very much WW, waiting for OM3, 4 or 5 to keep her happy..