BluWave’s advice is impeccable. She had the gift of hindsight to share what you quoted, however. Not that it changes the validity of her advice, but it is SO hard to get there in the moment you (and I) are both in.
But it sounds like you are doing a great job right now of detaching and staying in the present moment. You are in limbo... and I have so much empathy and admiration for how you are coping with it all. If you read BluWave’s threads from start to finish, you will learn that she struggled so much in the beginning to detach. She fell victim to what all of us do: the begging, crying, pleading, sadness, rage. And she learned that it didn’t work. But what I am slowly realizing is that those emotions are instigators to detachment. Human nature can only stay in pain for so long before we start to move away from it. For survival.
You are deserving of great love. Of faithfulness. Of not being hurt in this way. Don’t forget that.
