What Sandi has said is incredible advice, read and then re-read it.
There isn’t anything you can do right now to wake her up. You could do 1000 interactions with her, absolutely perfectly, for the next six months - and nothing will change. You have been manipulated over time to believe that everything you say or do will control if this works out or not.
You seem to have the traits of a nice guy in a similar way to me. Could I recommend you read “No More Mr Nice Guy”? It certainly helped me to understand me.
