You are correct, how can you be close friends if you have to censor yourself. I told my friends what had happened at BD. Most stayed my friends, some did not. Three particular families sided with XW. Going so far as cutting the kids out of their lives as well as me.
In all the chaos, silver linings and blessing abound. One of those, is learning who is a true friend and will stand along side of you. People’s inner light does tend to shine through during this.
Start small with her and see where it goes. It is only an email to reconnect, and she may also be attempting to reconnect with H. Be cognizant of the possibility of her being a conduit of information to H, intentionally or unintentionally. This caution would be especially pertinent for legal and businesslike matters.
I’m sorry, you at times feel distance or isolated from your friends. It is good to consider what you are going to say and the potential affects. However, if you are following your values with having open honest discussions, and it costs a few friendships, perhaps those weren’t as valuable a friendship as you thought.
From one friend to another,
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
