Is this the first time that D was discussed so solidly between you two? Did you get any warning that he was going to talk to his parents or your children about it? Or are you finding out how resolved he is through these interactions? Either way, you sure did an amazing job of handling your conversation with him.
D was never really discussed solidly between us...shortly after BD I initiated a R talk and he told me he was ready to D. I expressed to him that I did not want to divorce and I think we can work things out. Few months later he brought D up here and there, and those times I told him that there's nothing I can do if he wants to proceed. I'm not going to make things difficult for him. So it mainly has been him asking for financial info in preparation for D and I've complied to his requests.
He did let me know before he spoke to his parents. and of course used it against me and said that I didn't have the courtesy to do the same for him when I told my parents.
