Finally getting on for an update. H and I continue to get along well as our mostly in home quarantine continues. We worked together nicely on some home improvement projects over the weekend. It was nice to see him put in the effort when this would NOT have been something he would have done 1 year ago. He still likes to push decisions on me and refers to the house as "mine".
I don't know if this is the wisest DBing choice, but we have been intimate quite a few times as well. He definitely spouts some nonsense during the act about wanting to reconcile, etc. I'm glad I read the book "Why Men Marry B****", so I'm sure it's all BS, and I don't it seriously.
One thing I have been struggling with, is that as our baby is outgrowing some of her clothes and toys, H keeps asking me to sell or donate them and doesn't want to store them in the basement (where there is plenty of space). I've mentioned this before, but one of his major issues with our M was that after I got pregnant, he said he changed his mind about kids, first saying he didn't want our baby, and then saying he would accept that we were having a baby but did not want any more kids. (pre-M and for years, we've always wanted multiple kids). And that was one of the main reasons he told me we should S/D at bomb drop, because I wanted more kids and he had changed his mind and did not. Staying in my current M or not, it's hard for me to give up the idea of not having any more kids and I don't really want to give away hundreds of dollars of baby supplies right now. Do I push back and tell him that? Or do I go along with it and get rid of the baby stuff? I have made a comment at one point (may have been a bad move) when he mentioned not having any more kids that I may still have more children [with someone else].
