I agree w/LH19. There is no need to "air" your situation w/others, especially friends trying to contact her. Right now, it is no one else's business about what is going on w/you and your wife. If your w does contact them, it will be up to her to advise her friends what is going on. The ball would be in her court to explain what is going on. Keep your response short and to the point.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
