Limbo over, now separated but in lockdown (part 3)

[Pommy99]

H and I had a video call earlier with D14’s IC. He called me straight after to discuss D14. I knew it would then lead to the OM question. And sure enough it did.

I avoided answering the Q every time he steered the conversation around to me having having moved on. Essentially me saying you left me, I need to rebuild my life. He then says that he hadn’t closed the door on us. He was seeing a therapist to try and work through his issues, had I now closed the door on any reconciliation? I somehow avoided that question as well. He says when he saw me this week (in the dress) he felt things he had not felt for a few years, he saw the old me and he liked what he saw. Maybe I should have validated at that point but instead I said you told me this 4 weeks ago, that you wanted to come back and then turned away again. He disagreed and said no, he hadn’t felt those things back then. (Bare in mind it’s only been 48 hrs since I went round in the dress and all of a sudden he’s realised he has feelings for me!)

He said if I’d moved on then that was fine, it was all his own doing. Again I didn’t respond.

I didn’t ask a single question about what he wanted, or if he wanted to talk. I just wanted to get off the call. I neither confirmed nor denied that I have anything going on with another man. I ended it on a pleasant note though.

I don’t feel like I have to do anything right now. Am I right in thinking he needs to do the work now? How should I act towards him? Do I just sit back and keep with the NC? What script should I be following?