Hi, Believe—you are receiving so much good advice from everyone (as always, it is helpful for me too!) and I just want to add something that I think may22 posted to HopeCA (and that others have echoed) that really stuck with me, something I needed to read at the time: dropping the rope doesn’t mean giving up hope for future R. It means letting go and turning the focus to you. You are a wonderful person. What does B6 need right now, this minute? What kind thing can you do for yourself? Also, for me, there was a time when I was reading “drop the rope” and “let go” over and over and over and concentrating so hard to try to do it as fast as possible. I wanted it to happen and tried to will it but, like many things in this process, have found that it happens at the pace it needs to happen. Keep reading the advice that helps; keep nudging this focus back to you. Is there a book you want to read or podcast you can listen to in order to help re-focus? I spent some time listening to the “Hope in Uncertain Times” meditations when they were streaming for free on Oprah and Deepak’s 21 Day Meditation Experience. I don’t know if they’re available for free anymore, but they usually have some meditations available to stream. May also suggested a YouTube video (sorry—I can’t remember which thread now!) by Ryan Holiday, “You control how you play,” and I found it helpful in shifting focus back to myself and dropping the rope...
