Persistent Endurance (Part 8)

[curtis7]

Thanks LH, Ginger, Ovr, MrBrside, Scout, and Steve. I hear a resounding kick her to the curb.

LH et al, the 2x4’s are deserved. I let her slide back into the house without working on herself. She does care about OM3 more than me, that’s been the case for over a year. She wants him, but she wants what we have. That is not a MR. She can justify what she has with him all she wants; however, it’s an affair any way you slice it and she’s still addicted. The “rock bottom” of seeing him traumatize our kids was short lived once she became lonely and he started sweet talking her again letting her know how he would do anything for her.

Ovr, it’s nowhere near as bad as a year ago. She has lost so much of my love and respect that her words and actions don’t hurt me the way they did back then. I am much stronger and smarter and am not letting this slide. You asked if it was true about my W saying that I only wanted her when I couldn't have her. We had a good MR, I always wanted and have been attracted to her. There were behaviors that I did which made her feel disrespected and unheard. She didn’t feel we were equal partners. I 180’d those after BD. I couldn’t hear or see them before and had no idea how much disdain it created for her towards me.

Steve, I like your suggestion. I need to confront and follow up with filing if she doesn’t commit to 100% NC with OM. I can tolerate her not committing to me for a time, but I will no longer tolerate her remaining in contact with OM while living with me.