Later that night I get a text saying that she was nervous about how I spoke to the 6 yo (sternly) about how he rode right out into the street wo looking. And she is afraid that my anger will be turned on her. I told her I understand and hear her and will continue to try to be a bit softer.
Children need discipline and women's hearts can be soft (it is not a bad thing). If you aren't stern, they may not understand as their minds are not fully develop. Stern is not mean. Stern is caring. If you didn't care you wouldn't serious and unrelenting, which is how I define the word stern.
State your position on being stern about your child's safety and don't back down. If this is why she leaves you then so be it. She will respect and be attracted to this more than a soft man who isn't interested in protecting his family.
Originally Posted by NewJimmy
I thought we were on the long journey of the piecing path but I seem to have fallen off the cliff. Should I just say "then please call a realtor to get an appraisal on the house and finish your paperwork or is this just more the Gift of Time?
No. Don't speak of it for the time being. This is more gift of time.
Tell her: "Children need discipline. If you aren't stern, they may not understand as their minds are not fully developed. Stern is not mean. Stern is caring. If you didn't care you wouldn't serious and unrelenting which is how I define stern. I am interested in protecting my family."
Then she knows why you did it. Make it a 60 second phone call. Then move on with your life and let her come back to you, if she chooses.
Last edited by ovrrnbw; 05/29/2001:58 PM.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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