I didn’t get a good judge. She doesn’t like alimony and here the judge decides. I can’t afford to give D14 her own room and sure I could fight for her but she’d hate me. D14 said she will have her license in a year and she will visit more then. She means well but that’s not what’s going to happen. I said the day I came here I was going to lose her. H lost a kid too so I guess we are even.
My situation seems dire to me today. It’s difficult not to see that H will come out of this unscathed. Women often end up on the bad end financially. I know a few personally. They survived meaning they have a home, a job and food. Most remarried. One woman I know who got ended up in a really bad place worse than me her husband did suffer some pretty bad karma. Ended up alone, severely depressed and he’s got cancer. Bad.
My old attorney has also messed up my case and missed some deadlines. The judge will probably grant me some leeway but this ups my cost to fix it. Her retainer will wipe me out cash wise. The other attorney I’m supposed to have a consult with isn’t much cheaper. If I settle it will be cheaper but if I go to trial I’m looking at $6k just for that. Not bad I guess. My budget is $10k and unless I go to trial this will cover it.
Oh and his pension is untouchable but she will go after some lump sum alimony that he can make payments on. The benefit to this is I can remarry.
I don’t get a ton of responses here but I figured I’d tell the story for the lurkers.
