Hey all I wanted to reply to your posts above but have a bit of a drama going on with H today and really need some advice how to handle this.
So I still have really backed off this week again, took kids to H 2 days ago and he commented "wow" how nice I looked etc, he told the kids that evening how nice mum looked. Next day went to pick up D14, later H tells D16 how "hot" i was looking the last 2 days. Also said he missed me. They started talking about studies and D16 said seh wanted to follow a career path as an xxx and mum has a friend who is an xxx and is going to get some advice about it. So H knows that the xxx is someone I was chatting to online and makes a comment about it (D16 had no idea and had assumed it was a female friend)
Today I get a txt: H: Hiya can I ask you a personal Q Me: Erm...what is it? H: You and your xxx friend, how serious are you with him? Me: I'm not sure why you are asking me that H: I hadn't been looking elsewhere and I wanted to see if you've moved on now
So I'm in a spin, I feel sick and I dont know what to do - ignore, respond. I dont know if he's checking if I'm Plan B still, or if he wants to start dating and if he knows that I am building friendships, he wont feel guilty about dating himself.
You should have told him no and that he lost that right when you separated. He wants you on the hook as a fall back option. The longer you allow that to happen the longer you will suffer.
