Competition? well, sure I am. Whats all this business about looking the best you can in those 37 rules, lose weight, new wardrobe, etc. Thats to have him look your way, rather than hers, right? I mean - he has us both on a scale - evaluating everything. So maybe competition is not right, but heavy comparison would be.
Eek! No, that's not the idea at all.
Originally Posted by "37 Rules"
27. Take care of yourself (exercise, sleep, laugh & focus on all the other parts of your life that are not in turmoil). This is for your health's sake.
The idea of GAL isn't to compete, it's more to put your focus on something productive (building yourself up) rather than something destructive (trying to mindread and control your ex). You even say you can sense his anger as you try to control him. That's natural! The gym's good, but we'd be almost as happy if you went for a massage or learned a new board game, doubly so if that involves a friend. Some of my GAL activities are playing guitar, learning backyard meteorology, and leading morning nature walks.
