I vote for insecure, but could also be ex has told her some crazy BS about you.
How about turning up at the door looking like you're ready for a fashion shoot, and swatting ex on the butt as he turns to leave - just to get her goat? (Ok, not really, and thank god she's not coming to the door, that would be too creepy. And I'd have trouble not spitting in her face. Then again, she's won the "prize" of a super creepy guy who you are better off rid of, so I kinda feel sorry for her. So maybe I'd just give her the stinkeye instead of spitting on her. But that's just me )
But then I'd have to touch him! Haha. I'm not at all attracted to him anymore. He's lost weight and was skinny to begin with. His lovely thick dark hair is substantially grey now. He wears these goofy sneakers with jeans. Very uncool.
You and I have similar thoughts on how to handle her. Didn't want to admit it here for fear of DnJ judgement, but I did give her the finger the very first time. Don't think she saw me, but still. Whoops. Sorry DnJ
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I too vote for insecure. I can only imagine a 21 year old who most likely knows that you are the better choice is just wanting to show she's supportive, but knows she can't really compete. It really seems like you are doing so well in these circumstances. My kids are older. I don't know how I'd be if I had a 2 year old and had to really play off being happy and centered all the time. I do well enough with my teenagers, but they get it if I don't feel well or just start sobbing and have to leave. Don't do that too much anymore, thank God. But wow, you are strong. Good for you!
Thanks B6. Honestly, it just takes time. No contact is the real MVP. It will be one year since BD on the 5th of June. My healing didn't really start until I made peace with my decision to divorce him. As soon as I confirmed OW, I was DONE. I'm not someone's backup choice or Plan B, even if he is the father of my kid also, I stopped leaning on MLC to excuse or explain his behaviour. That helped a lot.
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