It helps her by confirming that she needs not to get sucked in by him.
Yes, take all the help you can get - he owes you that much. But be cognizant that he's also probably trying to to fulfill some need for "OW" type contact. You're smart enugh not to get sucked into that, but just use him for whatever help you need. We KNOW he hasn't had a personality transplant. The sheen has probavly just worn off his relationship with his wife.
