Thanks. I ve been really trying to make joy in the little things. My D is pretty good at it too.
I’m struggling with something so weird. My ex’s extreme helpfulness. He offers to do so much for me. I don’t even ask. Maybe it’s because he’s not working ? He’s really gotten into gardening and I’ve been trying to learn about it. I found this corner of my lawn that makes the perfect garden area. He encouraged me to dig it all out on Monday, lay the top soil, ect. He guided me via pictures along the way and now I have a great area prepped for the garden and I can plant the seedlings people gave me. Including hmm. When it plants one, he gives one to me. I needed more topsoil but the bags are huge and heavy. He offered to get it for me when it went to Home Depot the next day. I didn’t want to take his offer so I went to the store and got the last bag. The next day he calls me says he went to Home Depot and found the tomatoes D12 likes and wanted to come plant them in my garden. So he did. I was work. He laid another bag of topsoil he had, planted the plants, cleaned up the trash I had there and put all my tools I had left out away in the shed.
What the heck?!! I thanked him, and I am going to go to Costco today and get those steaks he wanted . But I feel like this is going to come back and buy me somehow. In our marriage , he expected something for anything nice he ever did and held it over my head. But he hasn’t been that way yet. I pay him in food items or help with the medical stuff in the family, etc.
Maybe we just do have a good R and are helpful to the parents of our kid? I do kind of wonder how his wife feels about this. No clue. D12 wanted to build a she-shed and said “ dad could help us build a she-shed and we can do it all together. She was convinced he would. He said no, of course. And I didn’t want that happening. And I have no desire to build a shed, lol.
But I did build a cute garden. It’s been hot over here and all the son goes into D13’s side of the house so her room is hot. Last year M put in my air conditioners and my dad took them out. But I don’t have either of their help and I just didn’t want to ask ex for anything else. So , I went down to the basement, carried up the very heavy air conditioner and managed to get it in the window without it falling out. Proud.
This weekend is 2 days off in a row which I hadn’t had in a while. I plan on doing much more lawn work. It needs a lot of help and I’m getting there. It’ll take a while, but at least it’s a good hobby alone
