No changes on WAW - Pack_19 Part II

[Pack_19]

hi all!
I have more news on the shared custody.

So the other day we had a discussion where W told me she wants to go back to normal routine where I get the children 5 days every 2 weeks and my reply was I have to think about it. The separation agreement that is based on is not valid and I signed it under her threads and when I was feeling all the guilt of our problems and I was not sure I could come to live in Spain and preserve my job. To this she said "no you dont have to think anything..." and she went on and on about how she loves them more than I do and can sacrifice herself more than I do.

Anyway she was expecting me to bring the children to her yesterday and she called me twice on a threatening tone. I calmly told her the covid situation was not over, the agreement we have is not valid and I am fighting for shared custody so I want the kids to get used to that after a lot of my personal effort to have a job that allowed me to live here. Around 8 pm she texted me again saying she was expecting me to bring the kids. I ignored it and gave the phone to my S6 to videocall her.

In the middle of the call and much to my surprise she started asking S6 when he wanted to go with her and if he was going to go with her today. Of course my S6 loves spending time with me and he started asking what day of the week that was. I was furious inside but remained calm. I cannot believe she would use the kids to get her way, I would never do that. When I am without them I patiently swallow my pain and wait for the day I can pick them up again.

This morning I was working and I got a call from her. Her words were "I expect the children today before lunch. I am very aware of my rights and I will exert them". I calmly told her I was working and I would give them the children tomorrow. Then I got a call from her lawyer, I ignored it and called mine.

My lawyer told me to remain calm, she said she is the typical uterus mother and it is not the time to fight now, we will get the shared custody. She told me to return the kids today as we have been doing during covid, Thursday to Wednesday the week after with me, and to reinforce that the agreement she keeps referring to is not valid. She also told me is very unprofessional for her lawyer to call me and asked me to remain calm.

So I had to tell my son he is finally coming back with mom one day earlier and I am packing them now for that purpose. I have only told my 2 best friends and they both agreed that she is just trying to hurt me and projecting her problems and self blame on me. oh btw, she used one very political email to reinforce that she "has done nothing wrong to me, except for stop wanting me as her partner".

I have had a terrible week at work with all her threatening. One day she tells me she cries everyday and hates this and the next one she is telling me she does not want to have nothing to do with me in her future. I know it should not affect me but I am not that strong yet. My lawyer has told me to brace for a contentious divorce, I have a clear picture of the man and the father I want to be, I just cannot understand for my W is easier to focus on my mistakes and my blame and not to see the status of our family. Should I file for divorce and shared custody?

I want to fight for my marriage, I would give all I have to get my family back and I want to change for myself and my children but I cannot take so much blame and hat anymore. It has been 10 months and she keeps blaming, insulting, ignoring me, disrespecting me. I cannot go away because my children are there but there is only so much one can take. I have made mistakes and I have looked into myself for forgiveness and the strength to change but this woman has chosen to blame me and hate me. When I go today to given them the children I will be happy, look great and say goodbye the first!