Riding the Wave 3

[Pommy99]

Wayfarer, I'm so sorry that your anniversary was so painful for you. H's behaviour is just bizarre, but then after all the things I've read on this board, toegther with the experiences of my own H, really not suprising. He sounds in a world of confusion still - so much positivity in his actions....then he drops that in.....then resumes positive behaviour about how to spend the weekend together. Wow.

Do you think he wants to come back but because you're not putting pressure on him about the MR, about moving back to the MBR, you're not pushing him or punishing him over the A, he's not sure what YOU want, and that he doesnt want to make assumptions that you actually want to celebrate the anniversary? Maybe he's scared of jumping back in with both feet because you're not demonstrating that you're in with both feet?

Honestly, my initial thoughts were that he was an idiot, but I'm wondering now if he's apprehensive. Has he shown any remorse over his A? Would he come to you if he wants a R talk? Would he initiate it do you think? I'm just wondering if it's in his personality to have those kinds of talks, that he might want to come back but knows he's been an idiot and doesnt know how to come back. He acknowledged the anniversary - that's a positive; how he acknowledged it could be interpreted as him holding back through fear of being rejected (like he was by AP)?

Hugs WF x